Break up or makeup for 2009?Asking for feedback on personal dilemma ?

Hi everyone.I thought I would post this due to needing comments from people outside of friends and family re my current personal situation.


My boyfriend and I have been fighting on and off for the last 6 months but generally I thought everything was ok til a fortnight ago when we had a major fight and my partner said he has to have a break or we will start to hate each other.I could feel the tension from him so much I I moved out to temporary space at a friends house.Looking back we have been alot less affectionate to each other and alot more distant then we have been previously.We had dreams for the future which he says he still has but needs time out for at least a month to decide where to go next,he will not commit to a date regards when a decision will be made because he needs time out for himself.I now feel I need to find a new place to stay because of this and am trying to balance being understanding with my urgency to know what is going on in this situation.He says he still loves me and calls me every night.


For all that has happened I still love him alot, I acknowledge our relationship has got into a rut and I am going to a counselor to change my behavior within this the relationship,particularly my insecurity and bossiness which I imagine can be very draining due to him being a very calm and introverted person.He is one of the greatest people I have met


My question is,Is my partner really an ex? Is this a break or a break up and he is just doing this out of guilt or niceness?Do I wait and not call him or do I keep the lines of communication open?I am extremely confused and this situation of being in limbo is upsetting me even moreBreak up or makeup for 2009?Asking for feedback on personal dilemma ?
the only way to find out is to sit him down and ask him.. if you love him then you must not give up so i say stay with him but keep an eye on himBreak up or makeup for 2009?Asking for feedback on personal dilemma ?
My thought is he is searching his soul to see if he can emotionally cope with the way you guy,s are to each other. But thats a good thing atleast you know he cares deep enouph to walk away and take a look back b4 makeing a important decision. But you need to train yourself to be more emotionally responsive to him in a good way and not in the way you have been cause it aint working. Men are ruling creatures by nature they have to feel in control to be at ease emotionally. Try asking him what you can do to change it, to be a better partner to him ';within reason of course';. Let him know you will try this! also i would let him know what you think of him. Dont wait to long hun, if he gets to comfortable with his current situation it maybe to late. So strike while the iron,s hot (so to say), But dont be too pushy.
Unfortunately it sounds like its time to move on, and end the relationship